How to Love a Manifestor
A Manifestor with their repelling aura is not the easiest Energy Type to love if we don’t fully understand how they operate. In reality, Manifestors are not as intimidating as they might seem in their Human Design chart, but their independence and need for space play a very important role in the world, as these traits allow them to be initiating forces.
In a society that teaches us to fight for what we want and to “make things happen,” only Manifestors, 9% of the population, truly have the power to do so. A Manifestor aligned with their Design and Purpose is a fulfiller of their own and others’ dreams. With their Defined Throat connected to a motor center other than the Sacral, Manifestors have the ability to manifest. Manifestation is the act of putting into words or communicating what one wants to become a reality. This superpower of Manifestors is often misunderstood and frequently the target of envy or mockery by others, which leads many Manifestors to remain silent and, consequently, go against their own Strategy of informing before acting.
Often seen as confrontational and people who cause friction wherever they go, Manifestors ultimately aim to achieve peace. Many end up giving up and hiding their Manifestor side in an attempt to maintain peace. This may seem to work in relationships with others, but it damages the relationship with themselves, which later manifests as anger towards others. It is therefore important to demystify the energetic behavior of Manifestors and understand how they relate to others.
According to Human Design, all Energy Types are necessary because only as a collective do we function fully. Since Manifestors are such a small portion but have a fundamental role, it is absolutely necessary to appreciate and help each Manifestor live in alignment.
Manifestors find great comfort in their relationships with Generators, who need Manifestors’ actions to have something to respond to, making Generators the energy type least repelled by Manifestors. Being in any kind of relationship with a Manifestor will only work if the other party or parties are truly willing to accept and understand the Manifestor’s profile.
Here are 5 important tips to make a Manifestor feel loved because, despite their independent and powerful energy, Manifestors also need love.
1. Respect Their Independence
For your Manifestor, maintaining independence is essential. They prefer to be lone wolves rather than live in communion, so it is possible that in a relationship a Manifestor might come across as detached, uninterested, or even selfish.
A Manifestor initiates alone and, for that reason, cannot depend on others. They need to have the physical and mental means to move independently. Even within a relationship, your Manifestor will always want to initiate things and you should not only respect but also encourage this. Trying to tie down your Manifestor too much will only condition them and leave them angry or, worse, misaligned with their purpose. A union with a Manifestor should always be initiated by them; this is the greatest guarantee that the union is genuine and comes from something the Manifestor truly desires.
2. Give Them Plenty of Space and Freedom
Your Manifestor is like a cat that enjoys wandering outside the house; it can be gone for days but never gets lost and always comes back. Their repelling aura keeps others away precisely so the Manifestor can maintain their auric space intact and recharge. If we think about the paradigm of many modern relationships where the couple lives in separate homes, Manifestors are the Energy Type that would feel most comfortable with this arrangement.
Let your Manifestor have their space (and time). While this factor is always important in any relationship, it is imperative in a relationship with a Manifestor.
3. Trust Them
In today’s relationship patterns, giving someone the kind of independence and space a Manifestor needs can raise suspicions and distrust. After all, what is your Manifestor doing alone that they can’t do with you? Do they not value your presence? Do they not like being with you? Before doubts overwhelm you, it is important to understand that a Manifestor’s word carries a very special weight. Because their words hold the energy of manifestation, what a Manifestor says is what will be. Your Manifestor, if aligned with their energy, will neither deceive nor lie, and what they tell you, they will make happen.
Trust your Manifestor, their word, and their ability to act. Do not question or demand anything from them.
4. Do Not Interrupt Them
The voice of a Manifestor is sacred. Listen to your Manifestor attentively. Even if you disagree, resist the urge to interrupt them. Let them speak and express their feelings. A Manifestor’s Strategy is to inform and then initiate. It is extremely important to let your Manifestor follow their Strategy through to the end.
In this type of relationship, where it can easily seem that one side dominates and does what they want while the other obeys, remains silent, and accepts, it is crucial to accept the Manifestor’s Strategy, because it is within that space that communication arises. If we analyze the symbiosis of Strategies between a Manifestor and a Generator, the Manifestor communicates and then initiates, giving the Generator something to respond to. Although the dialogue might seem like a monologue, the truth is that allowing the Manifestor to speak without interruption or judgment will open the communication channel, but only if you respect your Manifestor’s way of communicating.
5. Let Your Manifestor Rest
Manifestation energy is very powerful and costly for a Manifestor and, like all energy types without a defined Sacral center, they do not have an internal exhaustion signal until it’s too late. The way Manifestors work is in cycles of creation and rest, but they easily get lost in their “making things happen” energy without pausing to rest. An exhausted Manifestor will operate based on their conditioning and exhibit anger towards everything and everyone.
So, if your Manifestor needs to rest (alone), let them recharge their energy so they can emerge in all their fullness and accomplishment.
As self-sufficient beings, Manifestors may seem like they don’t need love and that how love is given to them doesn’t matter. After all, they are independent and need to be alone. However, Manifestors need to feel valued and appreciated for their rare gift in a way that does not suppress their magic but respects it.
