Loving a Reflector is a privilege. This Energy Type is extremely rare, occurring in only 1% of the global population. Reflectors are characterized by their 9 undefined centers, which means they are highly susceptible to external influences. Therefore, it is essential for a Reflector to surround themselves with the right people and for those people to genuinely appreciate the Reflector’s wisdom and sensitivity.
Reflectors are vulnerable due to their constant exposure to the surrounding environment. Their role in the world is to reflect back the state and health of the community. Reflectors are the mirror of the world and, in a functional society, they would be the ones leaders turn to for guidance.
Because they have all centers undefined, Reflectors are the most influenced by the energy of the Gates as the Moon passes through them. Their Lunar Authority requires them to wait for a lunar cycle before making decisions. In a society without time, Reflectors are constantly pressured to make choices without being given the time they need to reflect. This pressure to act out of alignment with their Strategy and Authority benefits neither the Reflectors nor society. If the few Reflectors we have are not given the chance to live according to their Design, then something will be missing from our global Design.
Being in a close relationship with a Reflector requires a deep understanding of this role and a great deal of patience and respect for the Reflector’s process. Reflectors need to be loved with this process in mind.
1. ACCEPT YOUR REFLECTOR’S FLUIDITY
Imagine living guided by the Moon. It’s not easy. What matters today might not hold true tomorrow. The adaptability of Reflectors is their superpower. If we cling to fixed opinions, we block our own growth. Reflectors thrive in that open space, which is why they’re so wise. What many experience in a year, Reflectors can live through in just one lunar cycle.
However, relationships usually require stability. Trust is built through consistency and the expectations we develop about another person. With a Reflector, reaching that stage becomes more challenging. Expecting consistency from a Reflector like you might from a Generator or even a Projector is asking them to ignore their Design and Purpose. A Reflector who doesn’t live in alignment is a loss for everyone.
If you love your Reflector, accept their fluidity. Be enchanted by it and let it flow. Above all, respect it—and don’t demand a consistency from your Reflector that they are simply not designed to offer.
2. RESPECT THEIR TIMING
Reflectors need to honor the lunar cycle. Their decisions should be made with plenty of time. Respect your Reflector’s timing. Avoid putting them in situations where they are pressured to make quick decisions. That doesn’t serve them and ultimately, it won’t benefit your relationship either.
Respecting a Reflector’s timing means trusting them, believing that, in the right time, they will have the clarity they need to make the right decision.
The beginning of a Reflector relationship will be slow, but if you give your Reflector time, they will only enter the relationship if it is truly right for them.
3. GIVE THEM SPACE TO BE ALONE
A Reflector is influenced by everything and everyone around them. They are constantly absorbing and amplifying the energies of others, and with so many people in the world, it’s rare for anyone not to be energetically influenced. Reflectors live in this state of openness and receptivity at all times. Being alone is an essential need for a Reflector to “clear out” the energies of others.
Encourage and provide your Reflector with opportunities to be alone, free from external influences. Walks in relatively isolated places such as forests or wide beaches are very beneficial for your Reflector’s energy.
4. CARE FOR YOUR REFLECTOR’S ENVIRONMENT
Reflectors are highly sensitive to their surrounding environment, both physically and psychologically. It’s important that a Reflector lives in a home that is airy, clean, and organized, free from contaminants and toxic substances such as mold.
Caring for your Reflector’s psychological environment can be more challenging. After all, we can’t control other people’s behavior or choose who your Reflector interacts with. However, you can take care of yourself. If you share a home with a Reflector, caring for your own energy is also caring for your Reflector’s energy. Remember that your Reflector will always mirror what is going on inside you, even if you are not aware of it.
In all relationships, we must care for ourselves first in order to better care for others—but this is absolutely essential in a relationship with a Reflector. Valuing yourself is valuing your Reflector. Remember that you are also part of your Reflector’s environment, so take care of it.
5. GIVE THEM YOUR FOCUSED ATTENTION
Reflectors need to feel seen and accepted by others. Reflectors can easily feel invisible. After all, where do they begin and where do others end? What truly belongs to them if they spend all their time reflecting others? It’s easy for a Reflector to feel out of place and as if they don’t belong anywhere.
Modern society does not value the empathy and wisdom a Reflector brings If you are in a relationship with a Reflector it is up to you to make your Reflector feel seen and important For that give them your focused attention Create time to be alone with your Reflector with the focus on them not on you or others or your surroundings Take your Reflector for a walk in a natural park and give them all your calm and attention Give them the opportunity to focus on themselves even if their initial reaction is rejection
Being in a relationship with a Reflector means accepting that life follows the rhythm of the moon and goes with the tides For the majority of people this is not always easy To live with a Reflector and love them as they need we have to be strong in ourselves because being with a Reflector is like having a mirror pointed at us we need to like what we see That is the role of Reflectors in the world making us stronger people and creating a better world
