Loving a Reflector is a privilege. This Energy Type is extremely rare, appearing in only 1% of the global population. Reflectors are characterized by having all 9 centers undefined, which means they are highly susceptible to outside influences. For that reason, it is essential that a Reflector knows how to surround themselves with the right people, and that those people know how to truly appreciate the Reflector’s wisdom and sensitivity.
Reflectors are vulnerable because of their constant exposure to the environment around them. Their role in the world is to reflect back the state and health of the community. Reflectors are the mirror of the world and, in a functional society, they would be the people leaders consult for guidance.
Because all their centers are undefined, Reflectors are the most influenced by the energy of the Gates as the Moon moves through them. Their Lunar Authority therefore asks them to wait through a lunar cycle before making decisions. In a society with no time, Reflectors constantly find themselves pressured to make choices without having the time they need to truly consider them. This pressure to live out of alignment with their Strategy and Authority benefits neither Reflectors nor society. If the few Reflectors we have are not given the chance to live according to their Design, then something will be missing from our collective Design.
Being in a close relationship with a Reflector requires a deep understanding of this role, as well as patience and respect for the Reflector’s process. Reflectors need to be loved with that process in mind.
1. ACCEPT YOUR REFLECTOR’S FLUIDITY
Imagine what it is like to live according to the Moon. It is not easy. What is true today is not necessarily what will be true tomorrow. A Reflector’s ability to adapt is their superpower. If we become fixed in our opinions, we leave no room for growth. That is the space Reflectors live in, and that is why they are such wise beings. What many people experience in a year, Reflectors are able to feel within a single lunar cycle.
However, relationships usually require stability. Trust is built through the knowledge and expectations we develop about another person. With a Reflector, it becomes harder to reach that point. To expect consistency from a Reflector in the same way one might expect it from a Generator or even a Projector is to expect a Reflector not to live in alignment with their Design and Purpose. A Reflector who does not live in alignment is a great loss for everyone.
If you love your Reflector, accept their fluidity. Be enchanted by it and let yourself be carried by it. Above all, respect it, and do not ask your Reflector for a consistency they simply do not have to give.
2. RESPECT THEIR TIMING
Reflectors need to honour the lunar cycle. Their decisions should be made with plenty of time. Respect your Reflector’s timing. Avoid situations where you place them under pressure and give them very little time to decide. That does not support them and, as a result, it will not be good for your relationship either.
To respect a Reflector’s timing is to trust them, to believe that, at the right time, they will have the clarity they need to make the right decision.
The beginning of a relationship with a Reflector will be slow, but if you give your Reflector time, they will only enter the relationship if it is truly right for them.
3. GIVE THEM SPACE TO BE ALONE
A Reflector lives under the influence of everything and everyone around them. They are constantly absorbing and amplifying the energies of others and, with so many people in the world, it is rare for anyone not to be energetically influenced by those around them. Reflectors live in this state of openness and receptivity all the time. Being alone is an essential need for a Reflector so that they can “clear” other people’s energies.
Encourage your Reflector and give them opportunities to be alone, away from outside influences. Walks in relatively isolated places such as forests or wide open beaches are very supportive for your Reflector’s energy.
4. TAKE CARE OF THE ENVIRONMENT AROUND YOUR REFLECTOR
Reflectors are very vulnerable to the environment around them, both physically and psychologically. It is important for a Reflector to live in a home that is airy, clean, and tidy, free from contaminants and toxic substances such as mould.
Caring for your Reflector’s environment on a psychological level can be more difficult. After all, we cannot control the behaviour of others, nor can you choose who your Reflector relates to. What you can do, however, is take care of yourself. If you share a home with a Reflector, taking care of your own energy is also taking care of your Reflector’s energy. Remember that your Reflector will always mirror what is happening inside you, even when you may not be aware of it yourself.
If in every relationship we should care for ourselves first in order to care better for others, this becomes absolutely essential in a relationship with a Reflector. Giving importance to yourself is also giving importance to your Reflector. Remember that you too are part of your Reflector’s environment, so take care of it.
5. GIVE THEM YOUR FOCUSED ATTENTION
Reflectors need to feel seen and accepted by others. They can very easily feel invisible. After all, where do they begin and where do others end? What is truly theirs if they spend so much time reflecting other people? It is easy for a Reflector to feel out of place and as though they do not belong anywhere.
Today’s society does not value the kind of empathy and wisdom a Reflector has to offer. If you are in a relationship with a Reflector, it is up to you to help your Reflector feel seen and valued. To do that, give them your focused attention. Create time to be alone with your Reflector where the focus is on them, not on you, not on other people, and not on what is happening around you. Take your Reflector for a walk in a Natural Park and offer them your full calmness and attention. Give them the chance to be the focus, even if their initial reaction is to reject it.
Being in a relationship with a Reflector means accepting that life moves to the rhythm of the moon and follows the pull of the tides. For most people, that is not always easy. To live with a Reflector and love them the way they need, we have to be strong within ourselves, because being with a Reflector is like having a mirror pointed back at us: we need to like what we see. That is the Reflector’s role in the world, to help make us stronger people and create a better world.
